Pazhmurda.

Some feelings and emotions are best described in your own language, this word, Pazhmurda is from Urdu-Persian. Urdu is a mixture of different languages, and it is deeply influenced by a few languages, which include Persian as well.

Pazhmurda is a beautiful word, which wholly describes an emotion in its entirety. Being wilted is an actual translation of the word, it can be aptly used for describing a flower that has withered away, or one that was forgotten in a book, now long lost. It retains its physical presence although the colours are long faded and dried, the fragrance barely noticeable and it is extremely fragile. 

You will be surrounded by people, yet you will end up feeling wilted. Is there a lack of social interactions, most likely no. But there will be something, unexplainable to the people around you. The common suggestions you hear are usually the same: 

“You’ll be alright.”

“This will pass.”

“Stop acting sad.”

“Stop acting like it’s the end of the world.”

Imagine if we had the luxury of being able to pause our lives for a few minutes and stepping back;  watching everything from a third person's perspective. Indeed a lot of us would be able to point out some things that they can work on. But in spite of having this luxury of being able to step away, there will be a few elements that even after clearly identifying them, you may not be able to figure out what to do about them. A dull ache is the best way I can describe it. describe it as, there is distress but you cannot pin-point it. This dull ache, it eats you inside out and despite seeming to be absolutely fine, you feel like a wilted flower: Pazhmurda.

There is no one fixed solution for these rather sad situations. Sometimes you don't have to fix anything, because there are some things which cannot be fixed. A closer look would reveal that nothing is really broken, so any adventure of "fixing" leads to actual damage that now needs correction.

When things don't go as the way we want them, we feel something is wrong and we have to fix it. The ability to fix things is sometimes the biggest hinderance in enjoying life; we cannot fix things or situations to our liking, some factors are beyond human control, a rather harsh reality which we often fail to accept.

In all of this talk, the purpose is to identify that there is "something". No one needs to know what it actually is; all that is needed is an acknowledgement. At times all you can do is just stand back and watch; there is nothing to do and that is the truth.

When you reach your destination, you cannot rewind and go through the adventure again, at this point you have to accept that the journey has been made. However it may have happened, you cannot undo it. What you can do is maybe re-evaluate how things went, and how far did they go from what you had originally wanted. The most important question is, are you content with how things happened? If yes, you have nothing to worry about what happened, now you need to look at what's ahead. 

If you are not content, then look at what you could have done differently. And as we know there is no rewind button in our lives, look at how you can improve things for the next adventures. 

I will not say don't feel sad but I will say this yes, this is not the end of the world. You have another day and another adventure to look forward to. But acknowledge what is hurting, and then see if it needs fixing. Perhaps, you just need to sip a cup of coffee or tea, sit down to observe and re-evaluate.