Afsurdagi.

Afsurdagi is derived from the urdu word Afsurda.  I believe بے رونقی. is an apt way of describing afsurdagi. 

رَونَق means liveliness, glow.  From this بے رونقی. is described best as loss of liveliness or loss of glow. 

Fall has started. The leaves, which were once green, are now amber-reddish in colour and have fallen to the ground.

A gradual change , one that felt more pronounced when my eyes started to appreciate the changing colors, and when I felt the cool wind while walking down in the darkness filled evenings. Ah, how strange it feels to look outside and it is pitch black, but your clock only reads 20 past 5 in the evening. 

It is a sign—a sign that this year has come to its end, as so many things do.

As the colours around me change, I cannot help but to take a peek inside. There is something that is slowly gnawing away, making this  بے رونقی. more and more pronounced. 

Let's agree that to argue would be futile, once the mind is made up; there is nothing to change it. The mind, it can only find reasons to support the stance, unlikely and very unlikely that it would find reasons to go against the decision. Regardless of the decision, we are not here to talk about the decisions, oh no. To talk about your decisions would require me to see the full picture, and likewise you would need to know the story from the both sides. We don't have that time, the luxury of that sorts does not exist, at least not in this world. 

We will explore this بے رونقی.

The first part of any discussion is to identify the topic, we have identified our topic. This topic is open to one and for all. 

We would then want to move and define how it is effecting life, is it causing disruption to life or is it just dulling the life around us. As the word says, loss of glow so we can say that it is dulling the life we are living. 

Is there a instant fix, a couple of scoops of chocolate ice cream later, you may start to feel that same again or you may feel more agitated at now feeling sad at having consumed a couple of hundred calories without much nutritional value. The instant fix does not exist. 

What to do about it? Relate to it, the more accurately you can define and experience a feeling, the more complete it becomes. Remember, it may never be 100% complete. You may have addressed all or the majority of emotions attached to a certain feeling, your emotions which may have been unexpressed before are now expressed. This would help you process the situation and slowly you will find that رَونَق  might make a return. Subtle, most likely. 

Unprocessed emotions and unexpressed thoughts weigh the heart and mind very heavy, thoughts should be expressed and emotions should be processed. 

A point to remember would be, there should be no timeline. Giving a 12 hour deadline may not work well at all as you may overwhelm yourself, so take it gradually. 

Things will end at one point or another, all that matters is whether you are able to bring رَونَق  back into your life.