the How not to series; Episode 02 getting over people.
In life, you can never be certain who will be a part of your tomorrow and who won't be there anymore. We meet so many people everyday, some days you barely remember what you had spoken about the last time, with a few people you develop a connection, this connection is what gives you confidence and hope when you need them the most.
People will leave you, people will disappoint you, the sooner you learn that, the better it is. Next off, so what if they have left? Ah now that is the hard hitting question, you need to know that when someone is about to leave, you tend to find some hints here and there. Usually the dots are connected once the damage is already done; the only good thing is if you're able to connect the dots so now you won't be clueless anymore.
You cannot control them, if they leave well they leave. So what can you do to lessen your misery which follows all this excitement. You cannot just rewind and correct things, you need to let things take their own course, life never stops, there is still a beautiful world out there, you're hurt and you need to get back up again. You won't find a person like that again, better or worse yeah but not the same. You lost something, you won't get it back. But it doesn't mean that you stop living, you had good times, you learnt somethings, the experience is what matters, mistakes were made and you are now able enough to realize them. What happened in the past cannot be destroyed, instead of focusing your attention on destroying focus on bringing a desirable change overall and that'll bring in the results that you wanted, cause you can't destroy memories like that, you can forget them but you cannot erase them just out of the blue just like spot fat reduction doesn't work so this can't also work. Maturity comes when you have fallen but are able to pick yourself up again, confronting might make you feel better but it will have a big impact on your ability to handle stress the next time you're in a similar situation. Everyone loves a good drama, it doesn't hurt them. But it does hurt you, being rejected and thrown away, and once you choose to love someone; be unconditional about it.
And lastly the important stuff, closure is something which not everyone can give you. It takes courage for that and you're sadly mistaken if you think you'll get that every time.
Love unconditionally, cause when you're able to do that, you will always be able to love and appreciate, this is important for you; the ability to love is what distinguishes you from the crowd.
People will leave you, people will disappoint you, the sooner you learn that, the better it is. Next off, so what if they have left? Ah now that is the hard hitting question, you need to know that when someone is about to leave, you tend to find some hints here and there. Usually the dots are connected once the damage is already done; the only good thing is if you're able to connect the dots so now you won't be clueless anymore.
You cannot control them, if they leave well they leave. So what can you do to lessen your misery which follows all this excitement. You cannot just rewind and correct things, you need to let things take their own course, life never stops, there is still a beautiful world out there, you're hurt and you need to get back up again. You won't find a person like that again, better or worse yeah but not the same. You lost something, you won't get it back. But it doesn't mean that you stop living, you had good times, you learnt somethings, the experience is what matters, mistakes were made and you are now able enough to realize them. What happened in the past cannot be destroyed, instead of focusing your attention on destroying focus on bringing a desirable change overall and that'll bring in the results that you wanted, cause you can't destroy memories like that, you can forget them but you cannot erase them just out of the blue just like spot fat reduction doesn't work so this can't also work. Maturity comes when you have fallen but are able to pick yourself up again, confronting might make you feel better but it will have a big impact on your ability to handle stress the next time you're in a similar situation. Everyone loves a good drama, it doesn't hurt them. But it does hurt you, being rejected and thrown away, and once you choose to love someone; be unconditional about it.
And lastly the important stuff, closure is something which not everyone can give you. It takes courage for that and you're sadly mistaken if you think you'll get that every time.
Love unconditionally, cause when you're able to do that, you will always be able to love and appreciate, this is important for you; the ability to love is what distinguishes you from the crowd.
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