Growth.

Growth... Growth is generally taken as a positive word unless you look at it from a medical point of view, it then comes under the heading of a pathology. Change is not looked at in a positive manner. 

You have changed! Generally this statement follows through with a vibe of disappointment. You have grown! This would have a positive aura. 

How do you measure personal growth? is there a specific marker that can be applied everywhere? You can figure it out pretty easily, the answer is no. While humans do generally follow trends, there are exceptions. So there is no one size that would fit all. 

If I am able to interact with someone in a different way, would I be able to call that growth? It could be a bias influenced by the factors which play a role, emotions. Growth would be to be able to see things from a better perspective, be able to find a suitable form of action, and also be able to know how you would have previously thought and reacted. 

We have moments where emotions get the best of us, these actions generally lead to varying degrees of remorse. What is the best thing for me to do in a situation that is not favorable? When in a conflict, most of us follow the role of aggression. Unplanned, uncoordinated and not anticipating what would happen. Being able to plan, coordinate and anticipate, this is growth. Does it come overnight? Is there a book that can teach you all about it? Is there a seminar or TEDTalk that you can attend and empower yourself? No. 

All of this comes when you are faced with situations unfamiliar. Should there be a goal when you are faced with such a situation, yes there should be. And that goal is, to be able to get yourself out of this situation without harming yourself. These are everyday situations that can spiral out of control, but would you be okay with letting things go out just for something that could have been solved in a better way? 

If you can learn to anticipate things earlier on, you'll be a lot more confident with the decisions that you'll be making. 

Once a door is closed, let it remain shut. Don't be eager to peek inside, don't tell yourself that I might find some sparks there again; all you'll find is a chunk of disappointment. Understanding that there is nothing there is growth, understanding that life should be kept simple is growth and appreciating the distance you've is growth, but accepting that there is much more to be done is the most important part. The journey begins when you want to change just for you, and it should continue because everyone is moving, why do you want to standstill? 

If someone can get past you, why do you still deceive yourself?

Make decisions which would help you sleep more peacefully tonight, and would let you wake up a bit more satisfied tomorrow. Continue improving, and give fucks thoughtfully cause giving a fuck drains you out.